Rich Church. Poor Church.

So the last will be first, and the first will be last.  Matthew 20:16

When I was a child, the leaders in our Mainline Church were – for the most part – successful Broken glassprofessionals:  the professors and lawyers, the business people and doctors. They faithfully pledged a portion of their incomes towards the ministry of the church. Mission often meant writing a check to “the needy.”

One of the culture shifts for a 21st Century Church is that shift from Members Supporting Institutions to Institutions Supporting Members.  In other words, if a church focuses on reaching out to broken people, there will be financial ramifications unlike those experienced in the 20th Century Church.

Of course, some broken people are financially rich.  Maybe their brokenness involves  family estrangement or addiction or cancer.

Other broken people are financially poor.  Maybe they are dealing with family estrangement or addiction or cancer . . . as well as unemployment or homelessness or financial insecurity.  In some neighborhoods, the broken also include formerly incarcerated people, gang members, victims of random gun violence.

As our congregations continue to shift from a 20th Century Model (we write checks for people in need) to a 21st Century Model (we have relationships with people in need) the financial responsibilities of our congregations will increase.

Being a missional church is inconvenient and expensive.

Let’s say our church opens its doors to tutor at-risk kids after school.  Not only will we get to know the students, but we will also learn who needs new shoes, and whose mom is in the hospital, and who is on free lunch in school and won’t eat this three-day weekend. As we become aware of our neighbors’ needs, faithful congregations will seek to alleviate those needs.

This changes things.  With fewer people in the pews, there are also fewer dollars for ministry.  Many of our buildings are in need of expensive maintenance and we are making decisions between replacing boilers and feeding hungry people.

Nevertheless, there is enormous hope.  If we are truly doing faithful ministry and caring for broken people in our communities and beyond, I believe that financial support will come.  We will be able to replace that boiler because it’s clear to everybody that our buildings are tools for ministry – so that hungry people can indeed be fed in there and kids without computers at home can do their homework in there and mentally/physically sick people can find treatment in there.

Jesus spoke about reversals of fortune.  It’s quite possible that “rich churches” and “poor churches” could come to trade places.  The “poor church” that focuses on missional ministry might find themselves “rich” because people want very much to support efforts that make a difference.  And the “rich church” that fails to financially support their neighbors might find themselves poorer for it.  They will have lost their purpose.  (Note:  it’s not about perpetuating an institution – even if that institution is our beloved church.)

Image of a neighborhood church.  More than this window is broken.

Texting in Meetings (I’m a Fan)

priests-textingIn a recent worship service, this was an announcement in the church bulletin:  “To make a public expression of a joy or prayer concern, send a text message to (pastor’s name) at (cell phone #).

This presumes that 1) the pastor keeps a phone close by during worship and 2) other people have their phones on too.   I’ve heard some say, “Can’t people put down their cell phone for just one hour of their lives for the LORD?”  But here was a church inviting people to text during Sunday worship.  Yay.

Conventional wisdom is that texting during business meetings – much less worship –  is rude.  This article, though, says that texting during worship meetings can be effective in connecting people.

Do you remember whispering to a friend in 4th grade and the teacher saying, “Do you have something you’d like to share with the whole class?”  (I would always say ‘no’ even if the question was “What page are we on?”)  I didn’t have the courage to share out loud to everyone that I was lost.

Sometimes there are conversations that are important but they don’t need to be shared with the whole room.

Good reasons to text during a meeting – if you ask me:

  • Encouraging someone on the other side of the room to speak up about “that thing” they were talking about before the meeting.
  • Asking a question that not everybody at the table needs to hear. (What page are we on?)
  • Saying thank you.  (“Thanks for backing me up.”)
  • Making sure your child found the house key to get inside during a rainstorm.

Not-so-good reasons to text during a meeting:

  • Making dinner plans with your college roommate for next month.
  • Talking about your co-worker’s new tattoo.
  • Checking randomly because you are bored.

Yes, all the best practices venues will say that texting during meetings makes people appear unprofessional or disinterested.  But I believe that we are more attentive if we can text during meetings – at least in some contexts.  The bigger the meeting, for example, the more helpful it is to text.  What do you think?  What are the norms for your meetings/worship services/life?

Image source.



It’s that time of year when my windshield has a yellow film over it each morning pollenand my eyes water and my whole body feels itchy.  I have allergies.

Pollen is the primary culprit and it’s the full gamut: grass pollen, weed pollen, tree pollen.  I also have issues with leaf mold and hops.

Do you ever find yourself feeling uncomfortable – and maybe even a little itchy – but there’s no pollen or mold or hops —- or peanuts, wheat, shellfish in the room?  Chances are we have other allergies.

I’m increasingly allergic to fake people.  They make my eyes water.  They make me tired.  The same is true for clothes shopping.  Ugh.  It saps my strength.

Things I’m not at all allergic to:  dark chocolate, NPR, reading books in airplanes and – weirdly –  the smell of freshly mown grass.  Also:  helping individuals and churches figure out their calling.  These things give me energy and joy.  My eyes might indeed water but with happy tears.

Pentecost is about the Spirit-soaked Church.  When we allow God’s Spirit to permeate our lives, we are energized and nourished.  Nobody is allergic to this.

To what are we allergic in everyday life?  And what are we doing to avoid those things?  And what are we doing to open ourselves to God’s refreshing Spirit?

In Search of Unicorns

I don’t have much to say today, but Vu Le does.  He’s a non-profit guy in the Non-profit unicorn
Seattle area and he appreciates unicorns. He also writes a provocative blog.

We in the church are always on the lookout for unicorns:

  • 20-somethings interested in joining The New Members’ Class.
  • Tenors who never travel during the Christmas or Easter seasons.
  • Young adults with no student loans and lots of time on their hands who want to a) tithe and b) spend their weekends at church events.
  • Pillars of the Church who love the idea of changing everything.

In reality, all of us can be unicorns, according to Vu Le’s Mantra.  In these hectic days, there are increasingly leaders who understand that it’s not the church’s job to program people to the point of exhaustion or shame.  Instead, we are called (my word, not Vu’s) to use our gifts to transform the world for good.  We will not always succeed at this, but there is grace and there is forgiveness and there are second and thousandth tries.    I wouldn’t say that we are all “awesome and sexy” non-profit unicorns but there is something glorious about wanting to make the world better.  (Some of us do this in the name of Jesus.)

The Pure Joy Olympics

ScoutI enjoyed reading this article over the weekend – especially the part about The Misery Olympics.  Our miseries not only take up a lot of time; they also take up a lot of energy.

Whether we are sharing that time we spent 3 days giving birth or that time we moved twice in one year or the time we lost our passport and our phone in Malta, we all compare and contrast our agony quotients.  Of course there are real traumas that take much time and effort to process:  the fiery crash, the cancer, the house flood, the unspeakable  betrayal.  But most of us do not live in the Misery Olympics every day.

Also over the weekend, there was a wedding.  It was holy and heartfelt and kind of perfect.  It was potentially complicated but – turns out – not so much.  It rained.  Nobody cared, really.  It was a testimony to hope and hospitality and goodness and the best that the Church can be.

Imagine spending more time talking about The Pure Joy Olympics.  That time we watched a team of little girls in ponytails run laps about the soccer field laughing at the end of practice on that perfect spring day as the sun was setting.  That time we thought __ might die but she lived and even got out of bed the next day.  That time a neighbor met an older lady who was lost on her way to a party and she offered to drive with her there and then walk home.  That time you sat surrounded by friends and felt enormously blessed.

The Pure Joy Olympics.  Let’s play.

This post is dedicated to my sisters in Christ – the brides.  Photo by TBC.

What the Names on Our Church Rolls Say

Sylvia PoggioliIra Glass, Sylvia Poggioli, Neda Ulaby, Kai Ryssdal, Jim Zarroli, Korva Coleman, Soraya Sarhaddi Nelson, Lourdes Garcia-Navarro, Dina Temple-Raston.

NPR fans know these fabulous names. We wake up to their voices.  Their stories inform and entertain us on the way to work. They reflect everything from name hypothesization trends to racial-ethnic diversity.  Yes, the NPR staff includes more common (to people in the U.S.) names like Michelle Norris (although she pronounces it MEE-shell) but most of their names reflect global poetry and the diversity of 21st Century life.

This article makes the point that – if we look over the names of our co-workers, neighbors, etc. – we might find that NPR names are not so different from the names of people we work with or live among.

I would say that this is not the case if we live in rural Nebraska or Kansas.  But I could be wrong about that.

Just for fun, take a look at the list of surnames in your church rolls.  Do they include the most common surnames in North America (Smith, Jones, Davis, Thompson)?  Do your rolls also include such common North American names as Gonzales, Garcia, and Cruz?  Do the rolls include twenty people with the same last name? (That’s a special kind of ministry.) Any Wangs?  Kims?  Nguyens?  Smirnovs? Məmmədovs? Wójciks?  Singhs? Khourys? Effiongs?

As I ponder what the church will look like in the next decade and beyond, I believe that our rolls will sound more like the NPR staff roster than the names on the church rolls of my childhood.  At least, this is my hope.

Image of Sylvia Poggioli.  Nobody says her name with more flair than Sylvia Poggioli.

Do Boundaries Make Us Rude?

Quick answer:  No.Herz am Gartenzaun

At a recent meeting, a group of church leaders talked about the gift of boundaries, and someone mentioned the very real notion that we might be considered rude if we keep healthy boundaries.  (Thank you M.)

Especially as pastors, we are expected to say “yes” to every request with a happy “I love Jesus” face.  And if we don’t, we are a disappointment.

Two fun examples from my parish ministry days:

  • The bride from my most recent wedding was back from her honeymoon one Sunday morning, and as I was about to enter the sanctuary to lead worship, she stopped me and wanted to show me her wedding pictures.  Worship was about to start and so I said, “Worship is about to start and I need to get to my seat.”  I never saw her again.  She sent me an email later, telling me how she had never experienced such a rude pastor and she thought that she and her new husband had been special to me.  She was showing me her wedding pictures as a favor to me because she knew I would want to see them, etc. etc. etc.
  • A church member asked me to go visit her boss in the hospital because her boss didn’t have a pastor and the boss was really sick and wanted to have a pastoral visit.  I visited the boss.  She was an atheist who was ticked off that I had dropped by.  Lesson learned. Every time after that – when I was asked to visit a parishioner’s unchurched father-in-law, next door neighbor, cousin, or college roommate – I would say that I would only visit at their request.  One person said – when I told her I would not be able to visit her babysitter’s mother in the hospital –   “I thought it was your job to visit people in need.”  Note:  I can’t humanly visit every person in need, especially when it’s not even their idea/expectation/request.

Good Boundaries  = Healthy Relationships.  We all know pastors (and others in helping professions) with terrible boundaries, and I’m not even talking about misconduct issues.

Even Jesus set aside some alone time.  And we aren’t Jesus.

Some people will consider us rude.  That’s okay.


One Book/One Church: Global Edition

I am the weak sister of book groups.  Rescuing Jesus

Over the years, I’ve been in several and I am consistently frustrated because I didn’t take time to read the book, or the location involves logistical gymnastics, or a pastoral emergency arose that night, or I was too embarrassed to say that I was really there for the wine/dessert/coffee/companionship and I didn’t even care about the book.

But I’m a big fan of One Book/One Church projects.  (Or One Book/One City.) I would love for the wider church to read the same book this summer and talk about it among ourselves.

Urban Village Church in Chicago – one of my favorite churches – is reading Rescuing Jesus by Deborah Jian Lee this summer.  Check out the plan here. Frankly, this plan feels more complicated than I can handle.  (It could be a hectic summer.) But I’m wondering about doing something rogue-ish.  Not a series of meetings but just one gathering on one night sometime this summer.

As well, I am encouraging you – wherever you are – to read this book and simply gather with friends on one night or on a breezy afternoon under a big umbrella to talk about what it has historically meant to be “evangelical” and what it increasingly means to be “evangelical” today in the 21st Century Church.

Note to the media: Please stop hijacking “evangelical” to make it a political label.

Note to everybody: There are lots of people of color/women/LGBTQ folks engaged in changing the world for good in the name of Jesus Christ.

I am an evangelical Christian.  I believe that following Jesus is the best way to live.  I consider the Hebrew and Greek Bible to be the unique and authoritative witness for our lives.  I believe we are saved for and from many things that seek to destroy us and separate us from God and each other.  I believe that we are all broken and ridiculous, but love – as displayed through the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus – changes everything.

I’d like to be in a worldwide group with you, my friends, to read this book.  Who’s in?

The Mother of All Culture Shifts

Repeat after me:

It’s not  – and never again will be  – about getting new members.

This Church Needs One More FamilyOn the heels of Mothers’ Day, I’ve been thinking about a couple of important and unimportant things:

  • An historic Mother Church is counting down to a terrible anniversary in forty days.
  • KFC’s biggest sales day is – not kidding about this – Mothers’ Day. Lots of moms got buckets of chicken yesterday.
  • Denise Anderson and I will be visiting The Mother Ship in Louisville in a couple weeks to prepare for our stand as Co-Moderator of the PCUSA.

As I meet with church leaders and am asked how to get young families to join the church time and time again, I realize that The Mother of All Church Culture Shifts is this one:  It’s not and never again will be about getting new members.

As always, the question is “why?”

  • Why are we offering a Bible study in the back room of a bar on Wednesday nights?
  • Why are we starting a new worship service on Sunday nights?
  • Why are we feeding homeless adults on Friday nights?
  • Why are we opening a pre-school?

It’s not about getting people to join our churches.  It’s about making disciples. It’s about serving the community.  It’s about loving our neighbors.  It’s about loving God.

It’s never, ever again about building the membership and subsequently adding to our coffers and subsequently helping our congregations survive.  Jesus didn’t die to perpetuate an institution.

Old message.  Saying it one more time.  Thanks for reading.

Image of a church sign seen on vacation a few years ago.  Never let anyone put this message on your church sign.

Good for You. Not for Me. (& That’s Okay)

What to WearAmy Poehler wrote in her book Yes, Please that her motto is “Good for you.  Not for me.”  She considers it part of her feminist code.  If you want to breastfeed until your child is five, do it.  But it’s okay if I don’t.  If you want to go to church on Saturday night in a laundromat , that’s great. But if I want smells and bells on Sundays at 11 am, that’s great too.

I’ve written before that – in the 21st Century Church – there is no one way to do things.  What works for Church A may not work for Church B.  It’s okay.  It’s good, even.

A few months ago, I was doing a gig about 21st Century Church for a church group and at the Q&A part at the end – after all I’d said about culture shifts and generational trends –  a lovely retired man bedecked in a jacket and bowtie asked:

How do we get men to start wearing suits to church again?

It would be easy to slam palm to forehead and say, “Didn’t you listen to a word I said?”  But the better answer is about personal devotion.

If that gentleman loves God by wearing a suit to church, he should keep wearing suits to church.  But if the little girl down the pew wears a soccer uniform to church because she was at a soccer game before worship, good for her.  She and her family made a special effort to show up.

This is a surprisingly huge shift for some of our congregations.

While the sight of seeing a man in a tee-shirt sitting beside a woman in Ann Taylor sitting beside a homeless man who smells a little sitting beside a millennial with a cup of coffee all on the same row in church might make some worshipers feel judge-y, it would make others feel like they were seeing the Reign of Heaven up close and personal.

And it’s not just about clothing.  Some devout believers are Republicans and some devout believers are Democrats.  Some go to shopping malls on Sundays and some practice Sabbath by staying home and playing board games with the kids.

There is more than one way to worship God.  There is more than one way to show devotion to God.  If I don’t understand your way or you don’t understand my way, can we simply see each others with the eyes of Jesus and appreciate that we are together as sisters and brothers in Christ?  Maybe what’s good for them is not for us, and that’s okay.

Image from this article about What to Wear to Church.